Affairs that are carried out over the internet are increasingly common, and marriage counselors report a sharp increase in the amount of couples that come to therapy each year as a result of an affair that has been carried out online.

The greatest risk to a couple still involves co-workers, friends or neighbors, but the internet enables people to develop close relationships with others despite the distance or lack of social connection.

When a partner is developing a cyber-affair, there are a number of techniques and strategies you can employ. The first is that you check out How to Catch a Cheating Spouse.

There are a few additional key pointers that indicate what is happening. They include:

Developing secrecy and a need for privacy.

If someone is conducting an affair online, their privacy, particularly how this applies to their computer usage, is suddenly very important. The computer may be moved to a less visible area of the house, the spouse may change their password to prevent you from accessing the computer when they are not around, and your partner may react angrily when you approach them or disturb them while they are online.

In fact, disturbing them while they are online can tell you a lot about what is happening. Are they open about what they are doing? Do they get angry or defensive if you disturb them? Do they react with surprise and close their browser when you come near the screen? The volatility of their reaction will be able to indicate quite clearly if thier computer usage is something you need to be concerned about.

Change in home life and sleep patterns.

Internet chat room usage increased sharply after dark, so your partner may be motivated to stay up late and be part of the action. Getting to bed very late or getting out of bed very early in the morning may point towards your partner visiting dating sites and chat rooms to exchange emails with a new love interest.

This change in sleep patterns can have a significant affect on your home life and your relationship with them. There may be little time for intimacy or communication in your marriage if your partner is spending late nights and early mornings at their computer.

Decline in household chores.

As a consequence of spending so much time online, the state of cleanliness in the house may start to suffer. The lawns might not be mown as often, dirty washing may pile up, dirty dishes may stay unwashed, and maintenance around the home may be neglected in favor of a few more preciouse minutes online.

This decline in the household may signal a change in priorities. The investment in the online relationship may come at a cost to your partner's contribution to the chores and to your relationship.

These are just a few of the major indicators of an online affair. To get the full story and find out for sure if your partner is straying online, get my course containing my truth-busting e-book as well as my explosive tracking software!

Sarah Paul
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