"Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do."
-John Wooden

Have you heard about the movie that's out, "He's Just Not That Into You?" Well, so what if "he's just not that into you." Just go and find someone who is!

The problems begin when you find yourself with one of these men who aren't that into you and....you stay anyway.

Oh, I've heard it all before. "If I could just get him to see how much I care about him," or "He's just going through something right now," or "I know if I give him time he will come around."

Hello, this is your wake-up call. If you've been in a relationship for any length of time or if even if you've just started dating someone and you are witnessing tale-tell signs of him not being as into you as you are into him, well, these are Red Flags.

It's time to notice them waving in your face because they are there giving you a signal, a warning sign.

Use your intuition to make healthy choices for yourself. You know that little gnawing feeling that makes you feel that something isn't quite right? Don't dismiss your instinct because if you ignore your internal radar, you will eventually be walking down a dead end street, alone!

The fact is that many people who find themselves in these kind of one-way relationships hang on in hopes that they will get there partner to change. They see the potential in their partner and of course, THEY really like them. So, they think that because they like them so much it is going to miraculously translate into them reciprocating the same intense feelings.

They really believe that they can change this person's feelings to mirror their own and guess what? It usually isn't the outcome. If you are getting the vibe that your partner isn't as into you as you are into him, you're probably right. Once you face the truth, it's time to make a decision.

You know deep down inside if you are in a mutually loving, respectful relationship. You know when you are by the way this person makes you feel when you're around them.

Use your feelings to determine whether you are happy most of the time or anxious, fearful, distrustful etc. more than you'd like to admit.

If he's just not that into you, it's time to admit the truth so you can find someone who is. When you're honest with yourself, you will be able to take the steps to walk away and in no time at all, you won't be that into him either anymore!

Susan reveals more steps in healing your broken heart at: http://www.whystay.com.

Susan Russo
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