Do Nice Girls Finish Last?
Have any of you ladies been told by a guy you are dating that you are really nice or too nice? It is perhaps very true. You are a really sweet lady who goes out of her way to be nice to everyone. There is nothing wrong with that, mind you. You are who you are. When the guy said this to you, any bet you said, "thank you?" or "oh, OK...thanks?" because you were not really sure how to respond. Something deep inside told you it that although it appeared to be a compliment, it was actually one of those loaded statements that belied much more than he was actually saying. It was one of those statements that you wanted to pick apart. Let's look at what guys mean when they say that you are "nice" or "too nice", what it means for your relationship with the guy and what you can do about it. When a guy says that you are too nice, he means that:
So what does all this mean? It means that you are doing too much too soon where he is concerned. You are too focused on him and your relationship with him. You are giving him your all and saving very little for yourself. You are pouring all the love and affection you have inside onto him and you are doing this via action. All he has to do is sit back and receive it. He knows that you like him a lot or that you are falling hard for him or that you have fallen for him. He knows he has you exactly where he wants you. He is now controlling you, your emotions and your actions. Unfortunately, even though you are being nice and understanding, it is at this point that you become uninteresting to him. He thinks that he knows all there is to know about you. He thinks that you will always be there anyway as his Plan B so he begins to look elsewhere and seek out a lady whom he cannot control. This is the lady that wins his heart because he has to put in effort to win her over. This is the lady that challenges him to be a better man and the woman that he just cannot bring himself to leave. Why? Because HE has fallen in love with HER. To answer the question then "Do nice girls finish last?", I really think they do. They do not present enough of a challenge to a man to build the attraction necessary for him to want to stay around for the long haul. If a guy has ever told you that you are too nice and you have not been having the kind of relationships that YOU deserve, it is time for you to change perspective and change your actions. It is time for you to toughen up and become the woman who has total control over her life and her relationships. It is only when you do this that you will meet that guy who falls head over heels in love with you and sticks around for the long haul...if YOU want him to. If you believe that you deserve this and nothing less, go to the website below to make that change! Do you want to become that dream woman that men want to meet and be with? Go to http://www.howtogetaguyhooked.blogspot.com! Alyssa K. ©2010 Show All Articles By Alyssa K.How to Find the Man of Your Dreams
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