If You Want Him to Lead, You Have to Follow!
Allowing a man who wants to be the leader of your household to be the leader of your household -- as long as he is compassionate, considerate, cherishing of your feelings and fair -- tells both him and the world that you trust him. That new sense of trust turns into a completely new kind of relationship -- one with renewed passion, fun, and intimacy. If you've been arguing a lot over small things like household chores, and affection is disappearing, try this: Suspend all your rules for a specified period -- say, two weeks. Forget about who does what, forget about agreements you've made. Instead of pointing out to him everything he's doing wrong and how he's disappointing you -- go with your feelings as soon as you feel them. If the garbage is still sitting in the can overflowing and you don't want to take it out -- say "Yccch!" Say you're frustrated. Or disgusted. Say you don't want to take it out. Don't ask him or tell him what to do, or complain about why he hasn't done it. Don't get sucked into a discussion, an explanation, or an argument. Let him either figure out what to do, or ignore it. If it's still piled up the next day, express your real feelings again in the moment and ask him what he thinks about the garbage problem. Let him solve it. These small issues can build up huge amounts of stored anger. Each moment is an opportunity to either increase the intimacy in your relationship or push each other further away. Make the commitment to intimacy. Express your feelings clearly and directly without judgment, attack, manipulation, or even talking about his behavior at all! You can do it. It will turn your relationship around in days. Let me show you all the ways in which you can be happy and thrive in your relationship. My FREE NEWSLETTER is packed with tools and advice to help you connect to your man, inspire his love and devotion, and finally have the relationship you want...starting today! Simply fill in your name and email at the link below and start learning the tools that will show you how to get MORE out of your relationship by doing LESS. Your information is kept confidential and there is no obligation... just valuable, free advice: Click Here For Your Free Newsletter And eBook Download In her workshops, classes, private coaching and new book, relationship coach Rori Raye teaches women the completely original, simple-to-do and stunningly effective techniques for communication, confidence, and connecting with men that she used to turn her own now-glorious eighteen-year marriage around. Rori Raye ©2008 Show All Articles By Rori RayeHave The Relationship You Want
It is so much easier than anyone ever told you to draw a man close, keep him interested, keep yourself interested, and keep the relationship moving forward.If you're dating, or thinking about dating, know that there's a reason any man picks you out of a crowd. And there's a reason he keeps asking you out. Once he's picked you out - you don't have to prove anything, demonstrate anything, or even do ANYTHING. All you have to do is learn to just be who you are. And if you're in a relationship right now that either doesn't seem to be going anywhere - or has you tied up in knots because it feels like it's suddenly falling apart - does it seem that you only have two options? To just keep going on, trying to make it work and feeling frustrated and unhappy, or to leave? Well, there's another way, a Third Way, to set the relationship and your heart right. Download Have The Relationship You Want The e-book is in PDF format, which can be viewed on any computer (PC or MAC). You can read it right on your computer screen, or you can even print out your own hard copy. If you want more info on the book please go to The "Have The Relationship You Want" website |
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