Your break up can have some real serious effects on you, both psychologically and physically, It can lead to physical pain, weight loss or gain, sleeplessness, anxiety, depression, hopelessness, loss of motivation, and thoughts of suicide.

These are all signs of depression and they can be devastating if left unchecked.

It is normal to feel some level of depression after a break up, you can't avoid it. You will have days when you have no interest in talking to anyone, just getting up in the morning will be a major chore, you wouldn't be able to concentrate on even simple tasks.

You know that it's effecting you, your family, your friends and your career but you just can't seem to shake it.

Talking to someone about your feelings can be a great help, but you know you can't keep burdening your friends with your problems or you will lose them too. If you have one really good friend or family member that you can talk to great, but you need to make it a point to not make every call about your problems or they too will start to withdraw.

Consulting a psychologist or therapist may be a better idea. Not only are they better trained to help you cope with your depression, it's their job to listen and help so they are expecting and encouraging you to bring their problems to them

Although post break up depression is normal you can't allow yourself to remain in this state. Because you just don't have the energy to do anything it's easy to get trapped and sink even further into feelings of hopelessness.

Besides just talking to someone about your feelings here are few other tips that will help.

Exercise

It's nearly impossible to stay depressed after a good workout. You will feel healthy and rejuvenated, and you will sleep better at night.

Exercise is especially beneficial if you can do it with someone else. Play a team sport like volley ball. It gives you an excuse to get out of the house.

Watch your diet.

If you find you are eating less or more than usual make an effort to eat healthy. Combine this with exercise and your body will start to eliminate your depression.

Be careful how much you drink.

Having one or two drinks may actually help, but if you over do it alcohol will act as a depressant. Even if it doesn't make you sad or angry that night it will definitely put you into a deeper state of depression the next day.

Do something different.

Take a class, volunteer, explore, go shopping. Anything to get your mind and body occupied.

You will recover from your break up, you will move on and you will live a happy normal life again. Look forward to it.

Depression is only one of the major stages you need to go through to get over your break up. Do you know what the rest of them are? Read How To Get Over A Break Up - 5 Major Stages

Gary Caine
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