How To Get Over A Break Up - The Acceptance Stage
Acceptance of the break up is what you need to strive for in order to get on with rebuilding your life and being able to accept love again. If you've reached this stage then congratulations you are well on your way to living a full and happy life. Hang on to your acceptance, cherish it, protect it and do everything you can to keep from slipping back. If you haven't accepted your break up yet, have faith that in time you will. Hopefully this article will help you to speed up the process and to cement your acceptance. You were in love with him and you thought he loved you. Life was good and you were happy. Wait a minute! were you truly happy? Did this break up really come out of the blue or were you starting to see signs of it a long time ago? Was he doing and saying all the things you needed him to do and say? If you are honest with yourself you will admit that he wasn't. If you were the one that ended the relationship you know for a fact that he wasn't making you happy, that's why you left. If he left you then I think that if you really look back at the last year or maybe even more, you will acknowledge that everything wasn't a bed of roses. He stopped treating you the way you deserve to be treated long ago. You weren't happy and neither was he and deep down you know it. In all honesty you were hanging on to what was familiar to you far more than you were hanging onto love. I know you loved him, and I expect he loves you, but you weren't making each other happy and that's what caused the break up. Don't be fooled into thinking it will be any better if you get back together. Sure it may be for a while, but it wouldn't take long before everything reverts back to the way it was just before you broke up. People have the strange inclination to remember happy times more than they do the bad times, try to remember all the details of your relationship both good and bad. Be brutally honest with yourself and admit that your marriage wasn't all that perfect, in fact there were parts of it that outright stunk. Naturally it wasn't horrible 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You had good times and lots of them, but admit to yourself that you weren't living the euphoric life you had dreamed of since you were a little girl playing house. Do this and you will be able to admit that a break up was the best thing for you, even with all the negative emotions it brings. I understand that this is a bit harsh, but you need to accept your break up so that you can start living your life again. Please remember that you will be happy again. That much I can promise you. Acceptance is only one of the major stages you need to go through to get over your break up. Do you know what the rest of them are? Read How To Get Over A Break Up - 5 Major Stages How would you like your next love to treat you the way you deserve? See The Woman the Men Adore And Never Want to Leave 
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