Your boyfriend left you for a reason or a number of reasons, and if you want any chance of getting him back you need to determine what they were.

I know it's brutal and the last thing you want to hear right now, but the reality is that there was something you were doing that caused him to leave you. Be honest with yourself, if everything was perfect for him, he would still be with you, and you wouldn't be trying to get him back.

There is one of two things that you let happen, either you let him slip away or you drove him away.

How you could have let him slip away.

When the two of you first started dating you were excited and willing to try new things, just because he liked doing them and you wanted to be with him. The two of you had a great time and he found you exciting to be around.

Have you stopped wanting to do the things he likes to do. Maybe you don't really like football or playing pool and you started convincing him to spend the evening alone with you watching TV.

Of course that's just an example, but think back and ask yourself if there are things you were willing to do with him before, that you aren't willing to do now.

Another way you could have let him slip away is by simple becoming complacent, and taking him for granted. Have you stopped doing the little things that you did to attract him in the first place?

Could it be that you drove him away?

I know you didn't purposely drive him away, but here's a few of the things some women unwittingly do that can drive their boyfriends away.

• Constantly calling them. Being called three or four times a day can drive any man nuts.


• Coming across as a nag or bossy. It's not usually intentional, but if things always have to be done your way or not at all, it doesn't take long for a guy dread doing anything with you.


• Being upset or mad too often. Nobodies perfect, and we all get upset from time to time, but it's no fun to be around someone that's in a foul mood.


• Being insecure. Some people seem to always need reassurance that everything is good. They can't seem to stand the idea of their boyfriends being out of sight even for a short time.


• Talking about where the relationship is going and bring up the "love" word. Guaranteed to drive him away if it's brought up too soon or too often.

Take a good hard look at what your relationship with him was like and decide what it is that caused him to leave. Only after you have done that can you decide if you really want to get him back.

You may not have done any of the things I've listed, but there is a reason he left, and I'm sure that if you take the time to examine what your relationship was like you will find it.

Important! Just because you either let him slip away, or you drove him away doesn't mean you are in the wrong. It could just as easily mean that you just weren't meant for each other.

Once you have an idea what went wrong you can decide if really want him back.

If you do then your first step is to read How To Get My Boyfriend Back

Gary Caine
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