When we've manage to have gotten used to a man whose shown those signs of interest in getting involved with us and captured our hearts. As soon as he starts loosing that interest and those routine that we've gotten used to, we start to ponder. We make excuse after excuse for their poor behavior all the while deep inside we wake up to the bitter reality that he is not that into you. Try to pester or annoy him and he'll probably think of a break up excuse he can tell you. As much as possible men prefer to avoid confrontation for the reason that they don't like upsetting women and would prefer to take the easy way out meaning come up with a break up excuse that could pass up as saying I'm not really interested in you any longer.

So, what exactly are some of the break up excuse men make? How does one know you're on the road to a relationship breakup? First - If a guy likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that immediately. He won't keep you guessing; because he'll want to make sure you don't get frustrated and go away. Though, be wary of a guy who uses this as an alibi to stall for time while he decides what to do for this could very well lead you on the road to a relationship breakup.

He might be weighing your relationship with another woman he's involved with or it could be the possibility that he's using you as a scapegoat to a relationship gone wrong. He might be saying this so you won't press him to commit. But once we do, then and only then, will he have the reason to give us a break up excuse of "it's not you, it's me" thing. However, it can also be a sincere intention to get to know each other before committing. Your best bet would be to meticulously observe for signs that show his actual intention.

Second - If a guy is interested, it doesn't matter what's going on in his life, he'd try to find ways and means to find time for you, to be with you. So, when a man who makes a break up excuse that he needs to focus on his career, lady, you need to know the bitter truth that he is not really that into you. Third - No matter how busy a guy's day is he will always find a way to get a hold of you by any means. That is if you're his priority. He'll make time no matter how hectic his day is going.

Fourth - Another possible break up excuse can be that he is not ready. He's still not sure you're the one. I know it's hard to accept, but this is better then later on living in regret. You have to decide whether to stay and continue to audition for a part as his girlfriend dreading that break up excuse he'll tell you. Or go find someone who doesn't need a century to realize that you're the best thing that ever happened in his life. Lastly - If the guy is really into you, he'd want more and can't stop from seeing you.

Look at it this way, this guy is friends with someone they're attracted to, they would, I'm sure want to take it further to the next level. Don't tell me you'd believe that lame break up excuse that he's just "scared". So, can you put up with a man's lack of commitment to your relationship and be a doormat all your life? You'll only be setting yourself up for a major disappointment.

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