Why You MUST Have a Photo in Your Internet Personals Ad

Any online dating site will tell you that uploading your photo can increase your chances tenfold.

Why should you have a photo in your personal ad online?

Here are top 4 reasons:

1. You get more responses to your ad
2. People are more likely to answer your messages
3. You appear more credible
4. You can influence people's opinion about you

Now let's consider those four points in more detail.

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How To Get Over A Break Up - The Denial Stage

You know he's gone, but you keep hoping that he will come back. You fantasize how things will be after this temporary break up is over.

• You know what you did wrong and how you intend to behave in the future when he comes back.


• You just know that he really does love you and he will eventually miss you and come back.


• You catch yourself thinking he's going to come through the door any moment.


• You wonder if he's going to like the new dress you just bought.


• You are reluctant to change anything in the house because that's the way he liked them.


• You call him, or think about calling him to ask for his opinion before you make any decisions.

These are all signs that you are in the denial stage of a break up, and everyone goes through them.

I know I certainly did. Every time the phone rang I expected it to be her. I wouldn't make even the slightest change in the house. I found myself doing simple tasks the way she did them even if I thought my way was easier.

I was denying the fact that the life I was used to was over, and that I was free to do things anyway I wanted to.

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Romance & Friendship

With all that's been going on lately I've felt the need to find some hard 'n fast lines as to how things seem to work in the dating realm. Here are two items that seem to stand out;

It seems much better that a Friendship should build up to Romance (Eros love) rather than beginning with an exploding Romance that settles down into Friendship. Not that beginning with Romance is doomed to failure, but it seems to invite many misunderstandings that not many new relationships are prepared to weather. There is a certain, long-term, sense of security in knowing that you are loved by your mate, not because you were able to achieve or overwhelm their decision to begin the relationship, but rather that they are there with you because they chose freely within themselves to love you aside from what you have or will do for them. Of course this is something which, by obvious definition, must occur outside of your ability to control. Since there "seems" to be more control in launching a campaign to "win over someone's heart", the Romance First option is easy to fall into. But in the long run I have become convinced that Romance is to be the Enhancement of a love relationship, not the Initiator of it.

Secondly, it seems there is a strange attraction to release and perpetuate a passion for a person who is greatly or completely out of reach rather than the more sound practice of building a long-standing passion for the one who presents an available, faithful, workable love. The lack of availability may be due to moral regards (person is already married or involved), geographical distance, unworkable temperament (obvious problems with drug or physical abuse of others) or any number of reasons which would ordinarily make such a person either unavailable or an unwise choice as a mate. But the attraction seems to be either in loving them as a "project" in order to make their life better (savior mentality) or in the security of knowing that one can play with fire knowing full well that if the person became available, they would have no qualms at all about leaving such a person high and dry.

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